A few months ago, I went to my annual checkup. My doctor was like, “How’s it going?” and I was like, “My world is trash.” That’s when she was like, “Tell me more.” I was like, “Where do I begin?” and then I unloaded 4 years worth of my personal bullshit on her. That poor woman had no idea what she was asking me. She didn’t know just how much I had to say. I know we talked about my kids and their various ailments. I know we talked about the Hubs and how we’re pretty much roommates again. I know I talked about my lack of direction, focus, and desire to do much more than get my kids to their doctor appointments and pick up dog shit in my yard.
I'm so sorry you are struggling. I empathize more than you could ever know. I don't have an answer. I only wanted you to know you are not alone and that some one cares. Oh to be clear, that someone is me💕
I have ADHD (when TF did there become an H in the middle?!) and SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder). It sucks. Due to everything being through the VA, I have to "ration" my meds since they are so flipping far behind (please support veterans!). I did actually get tested, the test was part fascinating and part annoying as shit. This means that I am awesome at work, but I have the ambition of a slug when I get home. My house is a mess, I'm putting things off I *really* need to do (the laundry is done, folded, but do you think I can but bothered to put it away?!), I feel your pain. But you'll get through it. Feel free to reach out for my little bit of coping tips that I have when I just... can't. But know I *have* to. Speaking of which, I still owe you a handwritten letter, since you sent me one! See how it is?
Hugs and love! You’re not the only one feeling like this and it’s all good. It’s the season to feel out of control 😂. Spring cleaning at it’s best. We just pick up the poop (appreciating that it’s not on the carpet), make sure that we are feeding ourselves and hold on for the ride right now.
Good grief, have they put something in the water? I'm reading and nodding in agreement. For me, our weather has just sucked long past the normal sucky zone. SAD has lasted past my normal Jan/ Feb and we still can't get any sunshine here. My house is a pit! No answers, so just sending a hug and cyber wishes for better days!
Everyone close knows I leave my little fake tree up all year round, I love the tiny colored lights. They make me feel warm and fuzzy, especially in the dreariness of winter. One year, I had a bigger one in my house so I took off the shiny balls/bulbs and attached pink roses in their place. It was really spring and summery looking and feminine. The lights that year were little twinkly white ones so it worked well. If I like it; why can't I do it? I can. It's my little hideaway, I don't invite guests, I don't want guests. I did that and I don't want to do it again; unless it's the grandchildren or their dog. A sanctuary should be just that. I love living alone with no one to ask me what are we doing Saturday night, what time is dinner, what are we having for dinner, did you do the laundry? Hell, no. This is the decade where I live in the moment and I love it.
Jen, remember when during the pandemic we all talked about how we needed to do only what we could handle and forgive ourselves for the rest? You're in the same situation. Life has dealt you a shitty year (or decade?) and you have to be gentle and forgiving with yourself. How do I know? Because I've also been dealt a shitty blow and the only way I get out of bed every day is by telling myself that's I will try the best I can and forgive myself for the rest. And sometimes I get about one productive hour of work in and I'm horrified I'm going to get fired. But this is all I got now, nothing else. Go easy! On another note, I need to look into this ADHD thing and see if I'm in the same boat.
If you haven't asked them to check other pharmacies do it. My daughter has to find a pharmacy that has it In stock and have it called in there every month for my grandson. It's not a shortage, the feds won't let pharmacies keep it in stock because of abuse potential. And let your doc know.
I'm sorry you're dealing with the ADHD medication on top of everything else now. You'll either need to start calling other pharmacies to see if they have it or see if you can get a different one that is less likely to be affected by a shortage. Which can be expensive, unfortunately. I hope you can find it somewhere in stock. I know how much of a difference it makes.
As a couple others have said, just because your pharmacy doesn’t have it doesn’t mean another won’t either.
I had a list of all the pharmacies in a 25 mile radius from our house and their phone numbers. When my son’s meds (or mine) started running low, I’d start at the top of the list and find who had it in stock. Once found, called the doctor’s office and they sent the prescription there as soon as they could.
Some months were really close.
Another thought - we moved a few months ago. Whole new state on the other side of the country. Only place I could find my meds was the community pharmacy at the hospital. Haven’t had a shortage issue once.
I wish I could give you a long in-person hug. You are one of the most delightful people I know. I've said this before, but you are always welcome to dial my number, scream into the phone, and hang up. I won't be offended. xo
Yikes! I can semi-relate but it would take too long to explain how and no reason for you to give sh*t or find anything pragmatically transferable - especially from the logical, analytical Male perspective. OTOH, if you want some of "those" suggestions that don't come with Kleen-X or a soft feminine shoulder, lemme no. Meanwhile...caveat emptor on the meds! Press on!
I'm so sorry you are struggling. I empathize more than you could ever know. I don't have an answer. I only wanted you to know you are not alone and that some one cares. Oh to be clear, that someone is me💕
I have ADHD (when TF did there become an H in the middle?!) and SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder). It sucks. Due to everything being through the VA, I have to "ration" my meds since they are so flipping far behind (please support veterans!). I did actually get tested, the test was part fascinating and part annoying as shit. This means that I am awesome at work, but I have the ambition of a slug when I get home. My house is a mess, I'm putting things off I *really* need to do (the laundry is done, folded, but do you think I can but bothered to put it away?!), I feel your pain. But you'll get through it. Feel free to reach out for my little bit of coping tips that I have when I just... can't. But know I *have* to. Speaking of which, I still owe you a handwritten letter, since you sent me one! See how it is?
Hugs and love! You’re not the only one feeling like this and it’s all good. It’s the season to feel out of control 😂. Spring cleaning at it’s best. We just pick up the poop (appreciating that it’s not on the carpet), make sure that we are feeding ourselves and hold on for the ride right now.
You’re not alone 😁 :).
Good grief, have they put something in the water? I'm reading and nodding in agreement. For me, our weather has just sucked long past the normal sucky zone. SAD has lasted past my normal Jan/ Feb and we still can't get any sunshine here. My house is a pit! No answers, so just sending a hug and cyber wishes for better days!
Everyone close knows I leave my little fake tree up all year round, I love the tiny colored lights. They make me feel warm and fuzzy, especially in the dreariness of winter. One year, I had a bigger one in my house so I took off the shiny balls/bulbs and attached pink roses in their place. It was really spring and summery looking and feminine. The lights that year were little twinkly white ones so it worked well. If I like it; why can't I do it? I can. It's my little hideaway, I don't invite guests, I don't want guests. I did that and I don't want to do it again; unless it's the grandchildren or their dog. A sanctuary should be just that. I love living alone with no one to ask me what are we doing Saturday night, what time is dinner, what are we having for dinner, did you do the laundry? Hell, no. This is the decade where I live in the moment and I love it.
Jen, remember when during the pandemic we all talked about how we needed to do only what we could handle and forgive ourselves for the rest? You're in the same situation. Life has dealt you a shitty year (or decade?) and you have to be gentle and forgiving with yourself. How do I know? Because I've also been dealt a shitty blow and the only way I get out of bed every day is by telling myself that's I will try the best I can and forgive myself for the rest. And sometimes I get about one productive hour of work in and I'm horrified I'm going to get fired. But this is all I got now, nothing else. Go easy! On another note, I need to look into this ADHD thing and see if I'm in the same boat.
"Throw a sheet over it and leave it." We did that with Uncle Stubbs on the farm.
If you haven't asked them to check other pharmacies do it. My daughter has to find a pharmacy that has it In stock and have it called in there every month for my grandson. It's not a shortage, the feds won't let pharmacies keep it in stock because of abuse potential. And let your doc know.
I'm sorry you're dealing with the ADHD medication on top of everything else now. You'll either need to start calling other pharmacies to see if they have it or see if you can get a different one that is less likely to be affected by a shortage. Which can be expensive, unfortunately. I hope you can find it somewhere in stock. I know how much of a difference it makes.
As a couple others have said, just because your pharmacy doesn’t have it doesn’t mean another won’t either.
I had a list of all the pharmacies in a 25 mile radius from our house and their phone numbers. When my son’s meds (or mine) started running low, I’d start at the top of the list and find who had it in stock. Once found, called the doctor’s office and they sent the prescription there as soon as they could.
Some months were really close.
Another thought - we moved a few months ago. Whole new state on the other side of the country. Only place I could find my meds was the community pharmacy at the hospital. Haven’t had a shortage issue once.
ADHD is a real thing so I hope your meds are back in stock soon. And our Christmas tree is up year-round - the lights are pretty...
You could make year-round-trees a thing! And I’m thinking of you.
I wish I could give you a long in-person hug. You are one of the most delightful people I know. I've said this before, but you are always welcome to dial my number, scream into the phone, and hang up. I won't be offended. xo
Yikes! I can semi-relate but it would take too long to explain how and no reason for you to give sh*t or find anything pragmatically transferable - especially from the logical, analytical Male perspective. OTOH, if you want some of "those" suggestions that don't come with Kleen-X or a soft feminine shoulder, lemme no. Meanwhile...caveat emptor on the meds! Press on!
Try gummies. Really.
What’s even more fun? When the ADHD meds change your life… and then they just. Stop. Working. Anymore. #fml